January 30, 2012

Sonya Renee - What Women Deserve

Culturally-diversified biracial girl with a small diamond nose ring and a pretty smile poses besides the words

Women Deserve Better”.

and I almost let her non-threatening grin
begin to infiltrate my psyche
until I read the unlikely small print
at the bottom of the ad:
Sponsored by the US Secretariat for Pro-Life Activities
and the Knights of Columbus

On a bus
in a city
with a population of 553,000,
4 teenage mothers on the bus with me,
1 Latina woman with 3 children under 3
and no signs of a daddy. 

One sixteen year old black girl
standing in 22-degree weather
with only a sweater
a book bag
and a bassinet,
with an infant that ain’t even four weeks yet
tell me that Yes ….
Women do deserve better.

Women deserve better
than public transportation rhetoric
from the same people who
won’t give that teenage mother
a ride to the next transit.
Won’t let you talk to their kids about safer sex
Have never had to listen as the door SLAMS
behind the man who adamantly says,
“That shit” ain’t his
leaving her to wonder how she’ll raise this kid.

Women deserve better
than the 300 dollars TANF and AFC
will provide that family of three
or the 6 dollar an hour job at KFC
with no benefits for her new baby
or the college degree she may never see
because you can’t have infants at the university

Women deserve better
than lip service paid for by politicians
who have no alternatives to abortion
though I am sure
right this moment one of their seventeen year old daughters
is sitting in a clinic lobby
sobbing quietly and anonymously
praying parents don’t find out
or will be waiting for mom to pick her up because research shows
that out-of-wedlock childbirth doesn’t look good on political polls and
Daddy ain’t having that.

Women deserve better
than backwards governmental policies
that don’t want to pay
for welfare for kids
or health care for kids
or child care for kids
Don’t want to pay living wages to working mothers,
Don’t want to make men who only want to be last night’s lovers
responsible for the semen they lay.

Flat out don’t want to pay for SHIT
but want to control the woman who’s having it.
Acting outraged at abortion.
Well I’m outraged
that they want us to believe
that they believe
that women deserve better.

The Vatican won’t prosecute pedophile priests
But I decide I’m not ready for motherhood
and it’s condemnation for me
These are the same people who won’t support
national condom distribution to prevent teenage pregnancy.
But women deserve better.

Women deserve better
than back-alley surgeries
that leave our wombs barren and empty.
Deserve better
than organizations bearing the name
of land-stealing racist rapists
funding million dollar campaigns on subway trains
with no money to give these women
while balding middle-aged white men
tell us what to do with our bodies
while they wage wars and kill other people’s babies

So maybe women deserve better
than propaganda and lies
to get into office
Propaganda and lies
to get into panties
to get out of court
to get out of paying child support

Get the fuck out of our decisions
and give us back our voice
Women do deserve better
Women deserve choice

Sonya Renee - What Women Deserve (2009)

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January 29, 2012
Selfie Sunday! Whenever I’m home sick, I put on some lipstick and try and take a photo of myself that doesn’t suck, so I can feel a bit less gross. Works every time!

Selfie Sunday! Whenever I’m home sick, I put on some lipstick and try and take a photo of myself that doesn’t suck, so I can feel a bit less gross. Works every time!

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Filed under: self self love fat portrait 
January 23, 2012
OOTD - January 23rdDress - Old Navy XXLLeggings - Made by my Mum!Shoes - Jules & JakeBelt - Vintage
Interview this afternoon, attempting to look presentable. I’m making a weird face in this photo, for which I must apologize. heh.

OOTD - January 23rd

Dress - Old Navy XXL
Leggings - Made by my Mum!
Shoes - Jules & Jake
Belt - Vintage

Interview this afternoon, attempting to look presentable. I’m making a weird face in this photo, for which I must apologize. heh.

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January 11, 2012

Everyone (except my parents) have always made fun of me for my seriously middle-aged taste in music. Screw ‘yall, I will forever embrace it!

This is Diana Krall and her band doing a tribute to Nat King Cole’s Frim Fram Sauce. So great.

“A girl, she really got to eat,
And a girl, she should eat right.
Five will get you ten
I’m gonna feed myself right tonight.”

This is not the first Krall song that talks about her gender identity specific relationship to food to which I very much relate. hah.

January 8, 2012

My pal Luke and I spent the afternoon strolling through Chinatown/Princes Island Park. It was at least 10 degrees Celsius, which is ridiculous for mid-January on the Canadian prairies. Luke and I have been friends since elementary school and we’ve been through lots together. I only get to see him once a year or so, but it’s always quality time well spent when we do hang out.

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Filed under: GPOY Calgary chinatown 
January 3, 2012

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January 3, 2012
This reminds me of 30Rock’s Gaybraham Lincoln:“Four Score and Seven Beers Ago!”Somebody give those people a GLADD Award.

This reminds me of 30Rock’s Gaybraham Lincoln:
“Four Score and Seven Beers Ago!”

Somebody give those people a GLADD Award.

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January 2, 2012
Longreads: Edith Zimmerman: My Top 6 Longreads of 2011

Edith Zimmerman is a writer and co-editor of The Hairpin.

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“All the Single Ladies,” Kate Bolick, The Atlantic

Kate’s story on the current state of marriage, and men, and women, is sad and happy and fascinating, and just generally makes me want to give her a high-five and roll cigarettes with her, even though neither of us smoke.

“Ask an Abortion Provider,” Dolores P., The Hairpin

Dolores P. wrote this for The Hairpin, the website I edit, and when she first sent it to me—out of the blue—I cried, and then I cried again when it was published, and the comments were so beautiful, but especially when someone left this comment: “I am pro-life, and was very moved by Dolores’s article. Although I really struggle with the ethics behind abortion, I recognize that in the end it’s all about people trying to figure out the best thing to do with their lives.” I had never seen that kind of response before. Actually there must have been at least five times I cried about things having to do with that piece. It made me proud to work where I work.

“The Medium Chill,” David Roberts, Grist

If you’ve ever achieved something you always wanted, and then the happiness lasted for … a couple days, and then you wanted something else, and something else, and there’s this lingering fear that nothing will ever be enough, read this article! This dude has it figured out, and if you just read the article enough times you can maybe bore through the computer and steal his life.

“My Superpower Is Being Alone Forever,” Joe Berkowitz and Joanna Neborsky, The Awl

The illustrations and story on this one are perfect. I love it. Joe is great. I think everyone falls in love with him a little bit here.

“Precarious Beauty,” Rebecca Mead, The New Yorker (sub. required)

I didn’t really know who Daphne Guinness was before this, but rarely have I been so fascinated by anything. I wanted to be everywhere they were, look at everything they saw, not-eat everything they didn’t eat. 

“Now That Books Mean Nothing,” Nell Boeschenstein, The Morning News

Nell writes about the books she didn’t feel like reading after her prophylactic double mastectomy, and her desire to “chug YouTube straight.” She’s funny, smart, thoughtful, and unusually self-aware. It makes me want to sit by her.

December 31, 2011

2011 was not my best year, but I’m so charmingly optimistic about next year that I thought I’d kick it off right: with Billy Crystal and a bottle of red wine.

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December 30, 2011
Today I dyed my hair green and blue and then I drank a whole bottle of wine and said THANKS FOR NOTHIN’ 2011.

Today I dyed my hair green and blue and then I drank a whole bottle of wine and said THANKS FOR NOTHIN’ 2011.

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